Day 3 #50DaysTo50
"we did that shit"
is what we said as we watched our little girl walk to her college diploma
we did it
but even more is what we didn’t do
we didn’t fuck her up
we didn’t press our fears into her
we didn’t try to control or contain her imagination
her idea of herself
didn’t even make her keep her “freedom hair”
we really tried to let her see who she could be
she did get some of my neurosis and insecurities
around body image
but then again maybe that was her exposure to the fashion world and
not me and
i’ll talk about that a little later
but today i talked on a show about how we raised our daughter
as an family without marriage
we made it up
she makes me proud every day
yeah, we did that shit.
pictured: Elenni Davis-Knight and Ezra Knight from a shoot for Essence magazine when I wrote about our relationship “The Good Break Up”
I LOVE the way Michaela Angela Davis uses the term “unmarried parent” instead of “single mom”. Oh, the power of words and language and love. My prayer is this be a new trend, that this term be added to the lexicon. It’s so important.